I’ve been using the app for a total of about 2 years. I had interesting experiences with tinder. Mostly good experiences. It actually made me come out of my shell because I got to talk to people with each one having a different lifestyle. I was on and off with tinder because I was either focused on one person (though never had a real relationship with the people I met on tinder) or I was busy in college. I set my settings to interested in women, and tbh at first not much of my matches messaged me. When I played around with the app, I set it to interested in men and women. It’s a little frustrating how the men were so comfortable to chat with, but the ladies didn’t seem that interested to have a chat. I wanted to meet women, not the men. So I tried to send out the first message to all of women I matched with and take the initiative just like the guys did.
It’s a good thing I did that because later on after meeting one of the girls, she told me that she was a few days away from deleting her account since no one really messaged her. She saw my message and gave it a shot to reply. She told me she was skeptical at first because I had a few pictures with photography trademarks so she thought I was catfishing her. I did tell her later on that I modeled a little…
So fast forward to 10 months later, we got married😍. We were both sooo close to not have met each other.
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Tinder used to annihilate the competition — so much so that I purchased the premium service numerous times, primarily to communicate my appreciation for their inclusiveness! As I wrote to their customer service department, not all of us fit into a “neat little box,” and Tinder used to not only understand that…they also supported it and encouraged diversity (even if some closed-minded members reported profiles). Suddenly, though, I have been outright banned from the app several times, for reasons that are ANYTHING but consistent among other users. I was told that some private messaging language between me and other members was “sexual” (umm, hello, it’s a HOOKUP app — so sexual discussions are status quo…and this is a big part of what makes Tinder so popular!) and that’s the reason I got banned. So I created a new profile, carefully avoided writing anything sexual, but guess what? Boom: banned again. And again. Ad nauseum. If users aren’t interested in a profile, all they have to do is swipe left; but there are many users I’ve connected with who ARE interested/intrigued, proving that there is a place on the app for profiles like mine. Make this right, Tinder! Stop discriminating and allow me (and many others) to once again enjoy the excitement of new interactions and connections.
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